I have just been so busy.....

How do you know when a man is losing interest in you? Easy, they (ahem) withdraw. They go distant, take days to respond to emails and text messages claiming to be busy. That is funny, at the beginning when they are doing everything in their power to snare you as it were, they could not text or email enough. Obviously they must have been sitting around idly twiddling their thumbs. The funniest example of this is when an ex lover emailed me to say that he did not have the privacy to respond to my earlier email properly. That struck me as odd. He had the privacy to be signed into an extra marital website (I am also a member) at the time but not to respond to my email? Strange that. I knew what was going on of course but kept quiet. Where was the fun in making it easy for him?? In this day and age, what with texting, email, BlackBerry messenger etc. there are a multitude of ways to communicate with someone or rather a multitude of ways to be ignored by someone! So, that ‘I have been so busy’ line simply will not wash with me!

All odds and sods

A brief overview of some of the latest characters I have encountered while using the dating website:

The man who claimed to be 5ft 11 but in the flesh cannot have been taller than 5ft 8.

The man who claimed to be 38 but in the flesh must have been oooh 50? Maybe 55? Or had aged incredibly badly.

The man who spent an inordinate amount of time detailing the infinite details of his (numerous) previous affairs. Which had emotionally scarred him.

The man who suggested working out together at the gym as a suitable first date.

The man who promised to email me with pictures of himself but instead sent pictures of his two children.

Then man who claimed to have something better than a picture to share and sent me a link to a video he featured in. A charity video. In which he detailed his son’s struggle with a rare disease.

The man who told me that he had emailed between 600 and 700 women. Almost everyone within his preferred age range. To ensure that he was getting value for money, you see. Clearly a very selective chap.

I wish I was making this up. Is it just me? Perhaps I have missed something and I should find the aforementioned behaviour irresistibly alluring and enticing?

Perhaps not!

Married, not blind.

So, I was thinking the other day about my double life and how I had managed to find myself in this situation.

I am 20-something girl, described by others as stunning, with a body in the prime of its life, a fantastic career and all the trappings that come with success.

I also have an amazing husband. Intelligent, witty, caring, hugely successful, considerate but still an alpha male who can be a complete bastard at times. And us women do like a bit of a bastard sometimes.

I also have a wonderful family and equally wonderful friends. I am surrounded by those who respect and love me.

I am often told that I have the perfect life. What people sometimes fail to grasp is that there really is no such thing as perfect. The grass is not greener on the other side, it is just a trick of the light.

This being the case, why on earth would I have signed up to an extra marital affair website? To coin a infamous phrase, it is not him it is me. It is me, I am....restless, a thrill seeker, a risk taker. I love to feel that my heart beating so fast with excitement, it might just burst out of my chest. To feel a severe lust and anticipation that makes you feel alive and in touch with all your senses.

That is why I have joined the site.

The experience so far has been....interesting. I will throughout this blog, detail my experiences, I hope you find them entertaining!